It took me an embarassing amount of time to figure this out: when one sees argument everywhere, it doesn't mean one is always surrounded by argument... it means one is argumentative.
The external reality we perceive functions nicely as a mirror for our internal character (which is very useful in figuring out what we need to fix in ourselves).
So I've had my share of threads in the past where I saw and participated in "battles" that I was really just conjuring up in my own mind. It's something I'd like to stop doing.
Just a nugget that can be taken for whatever it's worth... it's helped me in my internet debate etiquette, at least.