Not invalid Finch... But I don't know a single person that has all the same views before and after children. As a child, my family (my mom, dad, brother, sister, and me) raised foster children. (Children taken from their parents for whatever reason) We always had 5 foster children under the age of 5 in our house, outside of my family. we did this for about 8 years. And we (the kids) were VERY involved in helping with these kids. From sitting with the therapists that would come and work with the kids (since most were developmentally slow) to help bring them up to par, to the nightly dishes, bath time, changing diapers etc... Anyway, I had way more experience raising kids than any other kid I knew. And the views I have now don't match what I had, right up to having kids. Trust me, when they're yours... it's different.
I guess it's kinda like the people who put down Chevy trucks... Even though they've only ever owned a Ford. Sure, they know the Ford has (for the most part) performed well for them... and they have ridden in their friends Chevy truck... But once you own the Chevy for yourself... it's different. Fill in whatever comparison you want here... but since I was talking trucks with some friends tonight, that's on my mind
PS come to think of it.. maybe it was all my experience with these 5 year olds that could barely tell you they were hungry and barely even potty trained, has pushed me to make sure my kids won't be there. The struggles these kids had to go through in order to try and catch up were unbelievable. And to toss in the fact that they're not with their parents and would get a 3 hour weekly visit at most... These kids have a hard time. And what did the therapists bring and suggest for the kids? A combination of the simple stuff (balance ball,the shapes you put in the holes,the things you move from side to side on the metal rod, etc), and electronic stuff (Things that spoke with buttons, colors, words etc).