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    Gimmie-Gimmie sydrome

    Hey all,

    I just want to pop a note in here for everyone.

    In the course of the past month or so I have received a number of PMs or emails that have gone well beyond the norm of inquiring about the possibility of acquiring a plant through trade and have instead passed into the realm of rude demands.

    For example, I actually received the following message:

    Hi, i heard you gave person X (name removed to protect identity) a hippo plant (again, name changed to protect identities). I want one too. Here is my address...
    That was the most bold one I got but others were pretty gutsy too.

    Now by and large I am a very generous guy. I enjoy passing material around to others when I have it to give. And I do not mind when someone contacts me to discuss the possibility of a trade or the like. And that is the crux of it. Of late, more and more of the messages I have been receiving have not been trade oriented so much as they have been request/demand oriented.

    And I am not the only one who is experiencing this, if it was just me I probably would have let it slide off me as I usually do. But in emails and conversations with some of my regular contacts there have been mentions of the same things happening.

    Anyway, point I am trying to make is that there are proper ways to go about contacting someone if you are interested in trying to get material from them. Be polite, be civil and be respectful.

    For example, here is an excerpt from a message I recently sent another grower:

    If you ever have divisions available and are open to trading would you mind giving me a holler? Do not know if I have anything (Sarr or otherwise) that may interest you but if not I may be able to track something down through my networks
    By this point they and I had already exchanged a few emails so we had a bit of a rapport going but still notice that my message was

    1) Conditional ("If you ever have...")

    2) Gave them the power to choose whether or not to engage the idea of a trade ("...would you mind giving me a holler?")

    3) I made an offer ("...anything [Sarr or otherwise] that might interest you...")

    4) I also followed it with a second offer ("...I may be able to track something down...")

    These things show that I am making a serious effort to take their thoughts and position into consideration.

    This is a far cry form messages like:

    "I don't have anything to trade but could you give me XXX"

    "Hey. Nice pics. Got any spares I can have?"

    "I don't mean to bother you but I really want XXX and I have not been able to find one, Any chance I can get one of yours?"
    'My love was science- specifically biology and, more specifically, when placed in a common jar, which of two organisms would devour the other.'

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    HOLY CRAP A HIPPO PLANT!?!?!?
    I need one immediately.

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    Quote Originally Posted by phissionkorps View Post
    HOLY CRAP A HIPPO PLANT!?!?!?
    I need one immediately.

    Right, I'll just box that up then...
    'My love was science- specifically biology and, more specifically, when placed in a common jar, which of two organisms would devour the other.'

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    Aww, no more Gimmies? I was going to demand your entire grow list and request you pay shipping too. Darn....


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    Hi, i heard you gave person X (name removed to protect identity) a hippo plant (again, name changed to protect identities). I want one too. Here is my address...
    oO
    Well, that certainly is blunt. I hope I wasn't an indirect source of any of those messages...
    As a tradee, I always try not to mention the sources of my plants by name unless someone is asking directly in relation to a plant's lineage, etc. I think it's just common courtesy, the same way I wouldn't give away the address that they sent it from. I don't mind people asking me about trading for things out of the blue, but not everyone I trade with likes to put up a growlist and get requests from strangers and I respect that.
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    One time years back a member told me they were gonna "turn me in to terraforums" if I didn't send them a plant! ha ha! I didn't bother to contact Andrew about it cos it was so rediculous.

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    This is why I don't post my growlist.
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    In light of my bad joke, I get it too. I don't mind helping new people out that don't have anything to trade but offer to pay shipping. It's all about the context of how they ask that will determine how nice I will be about it.

    If it's a demand, they can forget it.

    It also helps to spell my name right in the PM .

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    Where do we go when we just don't know,
    And how do we relight the flame when it's cold?
    Why do we dream when our thoughts mean nothing,
    And when will we learn to control?
    --Godsmack

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