|Well, I'll try this again. *My last post (& my first here! got swallowed up into the void.[/QUOTE]|
This forum belongs to Earth. There are no voids. [img]http://www.**********.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/tounge.gif[/img] Your post is probably somewhere in page 2. When a post is pushed down to the bottom, it goes to the second page. When it is pushed to the bottom of the second page, it goes to the third page, and so on. I can't believe Tamlin didn't point that out [img]http://www.**********.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/tounge.gif[/img]
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And one more thing Fran...part of the enchantment of carnivorous plants is the wonderful people you "meet" in places like this forum. They are supportive of one another and their enthusiasm is contagious. You are indeed special to ask how you can be supportive of your other half's hobby!
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We're here for you! And if you want to learn about these strange plants you have indeed come to the right place.
And BCK...what wonderful descriptions of the plants!
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Originally Posted by Fran,June 20 2003,10:O1
First relax, don't try to appear more interested in the plants than you really are. *It will only make one or both of you uncomfortable and could lead to stress down the road. *That you find them fascinating is helpful. *That you have made the effort to learn something about them says a lot about your love for your SO. *THAT is the important part. *You two are seperate people and are bound to have (and need to have) different interests. *It is in our differences that we establish our individuality. *Our identity as a person. *Without them we would be pretty much a cookie cutter copy of each other. *BORRRRRRRING!
It is through our common interests that we strengthen our bonds to each other. *It is for this reason that the interest one shows must be sincere, else it can turn upon us and destroy that which we sought to strengthen.
Now as for the common interest in CP's. *What is there not to like, other than that they can be messy eaters and leave bits of their food laying around for all to see?
Heliamphoras. *A plant of contridictions. *Trite as that may sound. *One moment plain and uninspiring and in the next exotic and almost alien. *It appears at first glance, to be nothing more than a rolled leaf filled with water. *However, on closer inspection, the eye discovers the strange looking leaf tip shaped like a small peaked cap held over the water trapped in the leaves. *Or the veins tracing intricate patterns on the surface of the leaves.
Sarracenias have the most unigue flowers in both form and color (IMO). *Their pitchers come in such a variety of shapes and colors, they have to be seen to be fully enjoyed.
Utricualria may be the plainest looking plants...until they flower, which they often do in profusion. *There are flowers of dazzling colors and cute shapes (bunny rabbit faces! ).
Sundews, they truely are the jewels of the plant world! *I have a D. filiformis which I bought on sale and as a 'lark' as they used to say. I really didn't want one, figuring the long, narrow, straight leaves would be uninteresting. *It is now one of my favorites. *It has never failed to form dew and is always asparkle. *It rarely fails to cheer me up [img]http://www.**********.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/biggrin.gif[/img] . *And the flowers are the most delicate pink/purple. *Beautiful!
Venus Flytraps. *The plant that is responsible for so many of us discovering the existance of all the other remarkable carnivorous plants. *While there is only one specie of this plant, there are so many variations in form, color, size, and shape that to catalog them all may be nigh on to impossible.
Butterworts...Pinguicula...Pings. *How such a small plant could produce such interesting leaves and flowers. *The symetry and color of the leaf rosettes can entrance one if not wary. *Many grow pings for their flowers. *Some of the showiest in the CP kingdom.
Nepenthes, they start out as such small cute plants with darling little pitchers growing from the tendrils at the tips of their leaves. *Gradually growing into massive plants with some of the most bizzar looking pitchers of any CP out there. *The diversity in shapes and colors is intrancing in itself. *As proof you may paruse the nep forum and read the posts put up by those who have been mesmerized by this plant.
And if all this were not enough, they are contrary. *What one person complains of as a weed that is growing every where, another is bemoaning not being able to grow at all. *Yet both people describe the same growing conditions.
I have just finished proofreading this. I didn't realize I had gone on so long trying to say, that while you both may not be interested in carnivorous plants for the same reason there is enough variety in them for you both to find something to enjoy.[/quote]
Just wanted to add on toy our carnivorous plant list
Sarracenia (North American Pitcher Plants)
Darlingtonia (Cobra lLilys)
Nepenthes (Tropical Pitcher Plants)
Heliamphora (MArsh Pitcher Plants)
Cephalotus (Albany Pitcher Plants)
Drosophyllum (Dewy Pines)
Glenisea (forgot the common name lol)
Aldrovanda (Waterwheel Plant)
Bromeliads (some species)
Tillandsia (Air Plants, some think they are semi-carnivorus)
Ibleca Lutea (Devils Claws)
----------- (Shepards Purse, forgot Latin name)
There are several others I think
I'd rather receive a CP than a dozen roses anyday! *laughter* I always tell guys if they're bent on giving me flowers then they'd better be sure they still have the roots attached. [img]http://www.**********.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/wink.gif[/img]
But seriously, I think the most important thing is just listening and asking questions and being interested. If you're not so much interested in CP's.. then being interested in why your partner is. Here in Alaska I'm kind of isolated and I know that personaly I would give anything just to have someone to talk to about these plants. *[img]http://www.**********.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/confused.gif[/img]
As for how to show support besides just listening and being interested.. Hmm.. if I had a friend that was into CP's and I wasn't.. I think I would
- do some research and find out what growing medium they used, then buy a bag of it and surprise them. I mean, honestly, how many of us here wouldn't be thrilled with a bag of sphagnum? It's an excuse to get more plants! [img]http://www.**********.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smile.gif[/img]
- once again, research and find a place within driving distance that has native CP's and surprise them with a weekend road trip to see them
- buy them a gift certificate to a CP nursery or growing supply store for holidays.. and then, if it's local, offer to go with them to spend it.
Sometimes people just enjoy the company. I'd be thrilled just to have someone to go do these things with who didn't gripe the whole time. I mean, it's not unusual for me to end up waist deep in muck trying to search for a Utric in handfulls of green slime.. and if I hear my sister say "Ewwww! do you know what ducks do in that water?? *or You're not getting back into my car like that!" one more time.. I'm gonna scream [img]http://www.**********.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/tounge.gif[/img]
Come on guys.. what would you want your friend or partner to do to show interest in you and your addiction,uh, I mean hobby?
More people should post here so we could all print it out and "accidently" leave it lying around for people to find [img]http://www.**********.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/wink.gif[/img]
I think caring for a CP (or 2 or 3...) yourself will be all you need. That is what starts most people with the CP "insanity".
Personoly I would recomend a Nepenthes, but all the other ones are gteat too.
Actually, flytapgirl, I was notified by the administrator that my original post somehow was 'corrupted' *[img]http://www.**********.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/wow.gif[/img] *& to please some back & post again. *Which I did.