I hate to say it but....................
Me and my wife are having the same problems with our daughter. She is singled out often lately and the idea of fighting back absolutely crushes her. She is afraid she will hurt somebody and that makes her feel bad. BTW she is 6yrs old. She allows the other girls to call her names and push her around. She will even lie to us about what happens so that the other girls don't get into trouble. I am pro agression and violence when used in the right situations and circumstances but as my wife pointed out, she is too young to know exactly when she should react physically and when she should be verbal instead. For example, tonight my daughter was playing outside with some other girls and 2 of the others said lets throw these at her (Angel, my daughter) and she just stood there and let them until my wife told them to *"knock that **** off ". Then my daughter lied to my wife and said that they weren't doing anything eventhough my wife watched them do it. We think that maybe it bothers her more to be without other girls than it does to be picked on.
On a side note Angel is the most popular girl in her class and 2 or 3 boys like her but in the neighborhood, it is the way I described. Angel is very outgoing and social and is very little girlish (shoes, clothes, jewelry, accessories, etc...) but the neighborhood girls are very rugged and ghetto. My wife and I are having difficulties deciding how we want to handle teaching agression and self-defense. It is not likely we will be living in nicer neighborhoods anytime soon.
I though this was along the same lines so...........I posted it.
As for Dino, I am on the bandwagon for hit 'em hard as you can and you may get a butt whoopin but they will leave you alone, cause they don't wanna take a shot in the nose every time they feel like messin with someone...........that **** hurts! Your physical discomfort from an rear kickin will go away but if you do nothing the pain may never totally go away. Not to mention its a great feeling to drop a bully. Catch him right in the nose with a good one and he will be blinded by his own tears, at that point let him know he is at your mercy and that you could take advantage of him IF you wished to do so. He will remember it!