The trick is to Try a little of everything. Really. Like, um try a little of each approche, and see if the reaction of others is to your benefit. Often alot of it is bluff.
Like you, i was picked on and had no freinds in untill i got to highschool.
but something happened in highschool that has me completely baffled
when i went to highschool, my personality did sort of a flip-flop
See all of a sudden , well, suddenly guys (even footballplayers
) seemed sorta scared of me.
Like all of a sudden was sort of respected, ya know?
And all of a sudden i had like 3 girls saying hi to me everytime i walked down the hall
And i had done nothing. Atleast, thats what it seemed at first. It was more of a change in me than any one thing i did. The change was not pysicle. I did not suddenly shoot up (i have a growth hormone defficency) or get any change in my body. In fact i am very strange, not normal. Nothing about me is normal.
At first i did not know what it was, and it took the observations of someone else to tell me what was going on. It was a change in my personality that was the cause of this. My attitude.
This freind discribed me to me.
Um like she said i walk around school with a dont mess-with-me face on all of the time. Short and angry! Im not normaly angry unless someone gets me mad. Or im in a bad mood (in witch everyone stays out of my way pretty mutch.) When this happens even seinor football players get out of my way.
But i dont understand why. I have never pysicly hit someone in any way.
Guys say about me "yah, dont mess with him"
Why? Im not popular. Liked, yes, but not popular. I dont 'hang' with anyone. Im a loaner. Guys who could obviously do serious damage to me give me a wide berth. Im not strong in any way.
And i dont understand why. Is it my attitude? But i dont get angry at much unless someone really trys me. I dont threten people or anything.
To be honest i dont understany why i became suddenly respected. Its a mystery. I dont go out of my way to intimidate people.
err i got a bit off track there
So dont worry. Things can change in ways you never expect. Even you can change in ways you never expect
Will yu change? as we grow older we all change a bit, and we usually dont notice it. Wether the changes will effect your social life, only time will tell. But there is always reason to be optimistic.