beastOriginally Posted by [b
beastOriginally Posted by [b
But what is your neighborhood? *If you're in a sprawling suburbia of 1 acre lots and busy main roads and can't reach stores or parks or friends, you have my sympathy. *My parents didn't move to one of those until my senior year of high school and it sucked. *I had a drivers license by then and could sometimes get in a car and escape, so didn't have it as bad. *Now I'm 43 and we have an 11 year old daughter. *We're in a neighborhood of 50 x 100 ft lots with all those stores and parks and friends all within a kid's walking distance. *If my daughter says she and a friend are going for an ice cream, I say OK. *If we lived somewhere else, I'd have to say, "you're too young."
Bruce in CT
Madness is something rare in individuals — but in groups, parties, peoples, ages it is the rule. Friedrich Nietzsche
Parents aren't perfect and can be wrong, but remember that they almost always know more than you when it comes to life. So don't be too quick to discount their saying "you're too young", as its possible they're right.
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Well said and succinct!Originally Posted by [b
I am reminded of being 17 and a senior in high school. I very distinctly remember feeling as though I had the answers to all of life's questions. Um, it turned out that I was just a wee bit deficient. *rolls eyes at the understatement* I see my 18 tear old son and his formulated views on a variety of subjects - 95% of which are identical to mine and my wife. It's kind of amusing how much our parents can shape our views. I'd say the remaining 5% is probably reflecting our mistakes and his version of adolescent rebellion.
I am also blessed by the apparent knowledge that neither he nor his older sister gave us the fears and worries that a good many of parents face. Whether it's the 2-parent home in of itself or their inborn character or our example or in spite of ourselves, or... there are some headaches we don't have to face.
One of the hardest things for adults to do is to learn from children. To presume that being an adult means being emotionally mature is incorrect. I know many children who show a greater grasp of "life" than those much older.
We think that children are generally inexperienced, but forget their experiences while not as numerous of as often repeated as they will be over a longer lifespan are every bit as valid as adult experiences. Children love with the same intensity as adults, but for them it is "puppy love" and hence not valid.
On the other hand, adults have to watch children learn the hard way, more often than not. It is difficult to watch someone place their hand on the anvil, raise the hammer and prepare to strike and not say anything. The kid says "maybe for me, this time it will be different and it won't hurt!"
A hard lesson for adults is to realize that although it has never been done, it doesn't follow that it can never be done.
One thing that is needed is for age to have the respect that multiple handbashings deserves. Adults can be wrong, children can be right, but youth must defer to age if wisdom is the desired goal, even if adult opinion seems arbitrary. It might seem so on the immediate surface, but it amazing what perspectives age can bring.
I always liked the quote "If youth only knew, and age only could!" The true advances come when we learn to embrace a working partnership with our younger versions of ourselves, and understand that both adult and childhood experiences and insights are a part of a whole piece of human experience, and that the door swings both ways in that. Children need to respect adults and adults need to be open minded regarding their further education by those younger than they are.
One thing I like about the forums is that you really don't know unless told who is old and who is young, other than by examples of immature or mature behavior. It's a place where youth can demonstrate their maturity and act as adults if they care to without anyone pooh pooing the effort based on physical form. Unfortunately, is is also a place where adults can descend into schoolyard behavior, as has been amply demonstrated on several Forums and Listserves while pretending to be adults.
Another certain fact is when we can no longer learn, we might as well be in a box. Adults that shut down on youth have amputated a huge potential from their lives, for youth can see with clear new eyes some truths that adults have become blind to, if ever they saw them to begin with.
As for me, I judge a book by the story it tells, and not by its cover or by other reader's opinions of the tale. I am happy to say that at 53 years of age I have friends of all ages, and I respect all of them that are of good will. If there is more to it than this, 53 years hasn't shown it to me.
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i HATE it when that happens! LOL!!!!Originally Posted by [b
Talk sense to a fool and he calls you foolish-Euripides
wikipedia rocks! (except for species info)(CPers-add your vast knowledge of CPs to wikipedia!
A person is smart. People are dumb, panicky, dangerous animals and you know it
Get all the fools on your side and you can be elected to anything
Well stated William.
William's by far the most articulate person i've ever met, thanks for that tam!
They say if you play a Microsoft CD backwards, you hear satanic messages. Thats nothing, cause if you play it forwards, it installs Windows.
I am not enjoying it at all witha ll the bullying in school and such. And having no freinds.Originally Posted by [b
So I cant wait untill I grow up. *[img]http://www.**********.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/new/smile_m_32.gif[/img]
Yeah, I hate it when adults ALWAYS thinkt hey are right.
When I tell my dad that hes wrong in soemthing, he INSTANTLY makes the remark:
"Im the adult, youre the kid. You cant know better then me."
And he thinks that the wind goes at exact same speeds high up in the sky as it does on the ground. *[img]http://www.**********.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/new/smile_o_32.gif[/img]
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I think that assuming you know better than someone else is not limmited to the parrent-child relationship, either. Remember how it feels, kids, to have your oppinions and feelings disregared as invalid. Make sure you do not visit the same judgement on others for what ever reason.
As a new parent myself, I am of the philosophy that my job is to help my child grow up to a confident, happy, responsible adult. The tough part is that I know people have difficulty learning by being told, and must, as stated in a few other posts, learn from experience.
I can only protect my child from that which she wishes to avoid. Other than that, I have to hope that my council has provided her with the ability to make good decisions.
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