One of my friend's had a tragedy on Sunday. His dad died (not sure of what but he did have Alzheimers). I know you are supposed to give your condolences but I was wondering when to.
My friend works at the same place and last night I also saw him at a meeting of a club. At work it is common knowledge that his dad died and we don't say anything b/c well he has not yet come back. Anyway at the club last night everyone also knew but we did not say anything b/c we did not know how he would react. Well I unfortunatly had to bring my grandfather to this club and the first thing he says is "Sorry to hear about your dad". Now this was totally unapproprate I and appartly everyone else thinks. Since my friend stopped talking muttered thanks and shortly left the meeting. Today at work I was hammered with cold looks, glares and general un-appreciation/hatred.
Does anyone have any suggestions for what to do to get everyone from hating me. Obviously what my un-compassionate Grandfather did I could not control and I don't really want to take the fall out. I tried to explain to everyone at work and also told my grandfather he was out of line to do such a thing. If anything the only thing that happened was at work people hate me more and my grandfather after yelling about funerals for several minutes will not talk to me. His yelliing at me does not matter b/c I rarly see him andhe will forget in a couple days anyway.
So Any suggestions?