OK OK OOOOKKKK! *[img]http://www.**********.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/new/mad.gif[/img] *Settle DOWN! *I've seen some comments in this thread that are NOT appropriate!
There is a HUGE difference between expressing opinions/debating issues and arguing! *You never point-blank tell someone they are "wrong"! *Often issues aren't just black and white--there are grey areas too.
There is an ART to debate/discussion. *One very IMPORTANT skill is to stick to "I" words. *"I feel...", "I think...", "I believe...", "Its my understanding...", "Its my opinion...", etc. * To use the word "You" is accusatory and inflaming. "YOU don't know", "YOU are stupid", "YOU are wrong"," etc. *Never use the word "YOU" when trying to discuss an issue. *It immediately puts that person on the defensive (feeling like they must fight back) which sets the stage for an arguement rather than a discussion.
You can have differences of opinion on a subject. *No one person is wrong, no one person is right. *I'm sure there can be found examples to support every opinion expressed. *It does absolutely no good to try to "win" an argument or to be right all the time.
Geesh! *Trees CAN grow around objects (I have a lush and beautiful crape myrtle growing into my fence) and girdling CAN kill a tree.
Y'all need to practice the art of debate! *Stop using the "YOU" word and try to learn to speak for yourself using the "I" word and this will go a long way to keep discussions from getting heated.
No one has to be "RIGHT"! *If you see something that you disagree with that makes you angry...if you can't respond in a calm and civil manner, either ignore the thread or take it up privately (but respectly) with whomever.
Ok. *You better be glad that trees aren't like the apple trees in Wizard of Oz or you'd be in big trouble! *[img]http://www.**********.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/biggrin.gif[/img]