First, thanks for all the help and new-to-me info. I feel pretty relieved now that I've read what you all have to say. I'll be taking your advice gladly and hopefully!
Cruzzfish- The tray of water it sits in usually gets filled to about 1.5" and then refilled to the 1.5" when its low. With distilled water. I consider low to be anything less than a cm. I'm totally open to watering advice, please share what works for you! it's good to know that the older leaves turn red, I tried to search the forum and Google but I could be better at both. Thanks!
SeeMuncherIV- I agree that I burnt the tender tip of the inflorescence. The flower stalks were on them when I got them from Karen at Oudean's Willow Creek Nursery and I had a hard time finding the "sweet spot" of just the right amount of light. This one unfurled a bit and moved closer to the light than I'd anticipated. And good to know that they'll do this outside next summer, thanks!
theplantman- What you said about it needing more P makes so much sense! I've recently gotten more of a handle on the huge fungus gnat issue- they really lessened about 2 weeks ago and since then there hasn't been as much prey for them to catch. And this coloring showed up about 4 days ago. And I totally forgot (in my alarm) that I have seen pics of burned drosera capensis before on this forum and they do look either black or sort of gray/brownish. Thanks for all the great info!
HeliamWalnut- you're right about the inflorescence being bent, I've turned it quite a few times by picking it up to look at it, and then remembering that I left the dogs outside and the door's open so I set it down real quick and there you go, winky wonky look achieved! Lol. And thanks especially about telling me the splotchy older leaf look that happens.
so thankful for forums!
Edit: the fungus gnats issue was mostly in my tomato plants, which is the pot with dry looking soil that you can see in the picture. But they got everywhere! And the tomatoes suffered after months with fungus gnats breeding in their soil so I took action with neem.