I'm already thinking of posting a thread like this one for some months by now and finally I decided to post it. If you do feel offended by my post - Yes, it is nothing I like to do, but sadly you are propably right in this feeling.
After reading nearly every post in the Nepenthes forum of PFT for about one year now, I lately did realize, that my behaviour has changed in the last months: I have built a list of members in my head, whose posts I do not read any more or do only read very occassionally.
As I know from my experience, this is my first step in leaving a forum like this one. A place which I do like very much, because it is ideal for sharing and getting useful informations in a very short amount of time. It is not my style to leave without trying to do something against things I do dislike, so here goes a list of wishes I do have for the future:
- Only do answer questions where you really do know the answer. If you are not absolutely sure - be silent or mark your answer as a guess!
- Do only post facts from your personal experience! I.e. giving tips on plants you never did grow is just plain silly.
- Supplying informations you got from a book or another source is OK, but you do do have to cite the source where you got this information from! There is a horrible amount of wrong information around and by repeating, these wrong informations won't get true.
- Don't exaggerate. Others reading your posts will realize this sooner or later and won't trust you any more.
- Do read a thread thoroughly before posting an answer!
- If you don't have to add something useful to a thread please don't post!
- If you made an error and you do realize it, be nice and do correct it. We all do make errors from time to time, so this is good style.
- Please do write scientific names right!
I know it is a nice feeling to act like an expert and give tips on difficult questions - but getting an expert for these plants does take many years and lots of good and even more important bad experiences from which you do have to learn. So don't be frustrated, when you're only able to help out on very few questions here in the forum. After four years of growing these plants and reading every information I could get, I'm still only a beginner like most of you.
As you might know I am from Germany and over here we do have a very clear opinion on people not acting according to the points given above. It might be your american style - I don't know - but from my German point of view I'm really annoyed be some of the postings I did read here over the last year.
In hope of a better future...