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Phone call

nepenthes gracilis

Nepenthes Specialist
Boy its, nice to get phone calls from back home to exchange information and whatnot while you're in college. But, this phone call tonite from my family back home, has heeded some information i wish wasn't true. My father called me and one of the bits of information he had for me was he thinks that we are going to have to put our 12 year old dog down. She's been with me ever since i was a very young kid and to loose her is going to be like loosing a little sister. He told me when i come back for spring break, mom and him will have a descision made up, and if it is to bring her up to the vet, he said he cannot do it alone. So instead of wishing for spring break, I'd rather it be put on hold.

:down: :down: :cry: :cry: :(
 
I feel for you bro.. several years ago I had to put down a cat I had for over 18 years. To this day I feel like I murdered my best friend. This is a situation I would not wish on my worst enemy. My best wishes to you and your family.

Steve
 
Thanks Steve, i know what you mean about how you feel like you are responsible, which in all entirity sucks. But thinking on the bright side, its almost doing her a favor because she does have congestive heart failure, unable to hold urine, a really bad tumor on her back leg and other fatty tumors on her body. The doc said that if she was soo old we could operate on her to remove the tumor and tuck her bladder, but if we put her under, especially because of the CHF (con.heartfail) she would probably go anyways.

:(
 
I'm REALLY sorry dude. I know what it's like to have to put an old pet to sleep.
 
Dustin...I know EXACTLY how you feel...having been there. Putting Jonah down was one of the worst days of my life. I took time off from work and scheduled him 2 days after his 12th birthday so I could celebrate his birthday and then have 2 more days with him. I felt sick. Driving him over there and being with him during was surreal. But I was with him when his terrier spirit left on its new journey. I still miss him.

If you can get home, spend some good time with her. There isn't much that will make the letting go easy. But at least you have a little time to adjust to the idea and appreciate your time with her more.

I'm really sorry to hear that. :( I've been through losing a cat 12, a cat 14, a cat 17 and then Jonah at 12. :cry:
 
It's an awful feeling and I feel sorry for you too. As bad as it is, be glad that we have the ability to limit an animal's pain. I didn't think so at the time or for a while afterwards, but looking back a few years to when we put had to put our German Shepherd down, it was the perfect time for him - not too soon; not too late. Too bad it only rarely happens that way.
 
Really, really sorry to hear that. :-(
What a lucky dog to have such loving people...and I'm sure she'll love you to pieces no matter what decision is made.
 
I know how you feel.
In the past couple of years we've had to put down about 4 animals and each and every one of them feels horrible, but in the end you realize that what you did is right. :cry:
 
Thanks everyone! Its really good to know, that everyone has been there at least 1 time. But I suppose its a good descision for her. She coughs and hacks all the time and thats from the CHF. I suppose its put her to sleep or she'll cough herself to death....id rather she just go to sleep.
 
  • #10
I'm really sorry to hear this :cry: I also suggest that you go back home and spend time with her. We had to put our dog down 2 days before Christmas, 2 years ago. She was 13 and I think it was her time because everything just started to fail, all at once. I miss her so much.

A lot of people don't like to be in the room when their pet is being put down. I was there for my dog and also my cat who had to be put down. I wouldn't have it any other way. I want to be the last thing they see, the person who they know loves them. I don't want them to have to be in a room alone with a stranger who is poking them :(

Again I'm really sorry. I hope you know that you're doing the right thing, with her having so many problems already.
 
  • #11
Yeah, I was is the 'room' only once during the 'put down' of one of our animals.
His name was Nugget and he was a golden retriever. He had pretty bad cancer and all of his organs were going. It was really sad because I was only seven and he was seven when he got put down. I agree with Trapper in the sense that you should be in the room when they're being put down, because really at that time all they need is you

*actually starting to cry*
 
  • #12
Well, got another phone call today from my mom's best friend Mandy. She called on my dad's cell and wanted to let me know that mom and dad put her down today. I guess it was getting to the point where she couldn't get up, appetite was suppressed, tumors were bleeding/oozing fluids. And dad couldn't take seeing her in this condition anymore. So they decided to put her down. I didn't cry but I have no appetite, feel cruddy and just want to go home for spring break. The only other thing I didn't like about the whole ordeal was that I wasn't home to see her one last time. The last time I saw her was back in January...so I AM a little down about that...one last goodbye that I couldn't say.

:-(
 
  • #13
I'm sorry to hear that and the only thing worse than being there is not being there.
 
  • #14
I've had to put down two of my Greyhounds, and it sucked, big-time. The first one was the worst, as I've never had to do it before, and it was the first dog I've personally ever had. Looking back, it was the right thing, and you just know when the time is right. He had bone cancer, and had spent his last year as a tripod - had his right rear leg amputated. Believe me, that makes for a strange-looking greyhound given they're all legs. However, he was still the fastest dog at the dog park. But, it eventually caught up with him as they said it would. Anyway, the whole thing felt like getting kicked in the gut. I decided to get another dog right away, so my other one would have company. I'm now on greyhounds 3 and 4, and think I'll always have one or two. As bad as it is to put them down, it's worth it to see them every time I come home.

Capslock
 
  • #15
I'm really sorry Dustin. :(

I was with Jonah when he was put down. It was a VERY hard thing to see...it didn't go well for him. So, sometimes its a good thing if you aren't there. You just have to take comfort in knowing that she's not suffering anymore and the right thing was done. You'll always have awsome memories of her. :)
 
  • #16
I have had three dogs in my life and cried like a baby when I had each of them put down. It's hard losing a friend that has stuck with you no matter what. Time is what you need and eventually you'll be able to remember the fun things you did together.
 
  • #17
I'm sorry:-( I kind of remeber when my dog Sasha was put down, I think I cried...
 
  • #18
No! That's really sad.... Loosing a friend is never easy, even if you know it's the "right" thing to do. I'm really sorry to hear it.
 
  • #19
I just got off the phone with dad and he said yesterday was one of the hardest days hes had since my grandfather died. He was telling me he held right on to her until it was over. I told him I had to go because I couldn't take anymore, and I knew he couldn't either. I guess mom, my other grandparents and my one grandmother are all taking it hard too. So I have that to look forward to when i go home for spring break, but I'd rather be home anyways. I can just tell that this weekend and next week and weekend home is going to be hard, especially without seeing her around the house, 19years with her and now she isn't coming back from the vets or coming home from a dog sitter while I was away.
 
  • #20
I'm sorry dude. She lives a long happy life. 19 is a really long time for a dog.
 
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