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Thread: Im fed up! Being nice is overrated!

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    boy, do i know where your comeing from, im the sterotypically "girls cry on my shoulder nice guy" so to speak and ive had the same sort of results from people as you, crap, i get treated like crap. what gets me is that all the good things happen to the people who dont derserve it. In my example im always being the chivrous nice guy to these colleg girls and what do i get? "o, ur not boyfriend material, your too nice" so they decide they want to go out with the jerk, jock type guy and they get hurt and then they wonder why they can never find a good guy and end up crying on my shoulder again. It takes everything i have i keep it together everyday and not to just start yelling swears at people.

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    'Cause all the hot jocky sensitive guys are gay

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    All of my life I have tried to be nice....And know where it gets me? NOWHERE that’s what.
    I know what you mean Finch. Same here. Being nice often doesn't get you anything but used. And I get tired of it too sometimes. You try to do the right thing and be nice to everybody, be there for everybody, listen to everybody, do for everybody. And sometimes you just get crapped on for it. I could not count how many times I've been told "you're nice and sweet" by the people who ended up stomping on me. I figured I'd put that epitaph on my tombstone.

    HOWEVER...even though "being nice" often doesn't net you any return...there ARE some people who appreciate it...and...I still know just for myself...that I did the right thing and at least TRIED to walk a good path in life for myself. Not for anybody else. I can look back and say I never deliberately hurt anyone. There are a lot of people in my life that can't look back and say that. So...I'm nice because I'm that way and...maybe in another life I'll be something more exciting and useful. For now, I'll just keep on being nice until I drop dead from it. I don't know any other way to be.

    Don't get too upset...being nice IS the better way to be even if some people around you don't appreciate it. And there are lot of people who's lives you'll touch that WILL see who you are and appreciate it.
    "Fox terriers are born with about four times as much original sin in them as other dogs." - Jerome K. Jerome

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    Finch, by any chance have you heard of Aspergers Syndrome? (spelling?)...I'm asking because my brother has that. I know alot about it.
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    Well I'm a football player so you could say I'm one of those jocks but I'm still a nice guy. I just can't stand being the one people cry to anymore. Then when I tell them to get over it the just say bye and hang up. Then when you need something they are nowhere to be found. So maybe J will be one of them jerks and then I'll have some fun. Don't get me wrong though I can get someone but right now I don't want to. I'm 21, Irish, and we are having 2 St. Patrick's Day here. HECK YEAH!

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    There is a difference with being overly nice and being reasonable. You don't always have to be nice to people; sometimes, in fact, it is a relief (for everyone) when you are open and honest with people). You don't always have to tell people you are having a good day when you are not. You don't always have to open doors for people; but, there is a point when civility and rudeness cross. Just be honest with people and confront the wrongs that others have caused you.

    Is it too personal to ask what the breaking point was or what caused this change?

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    Quote Originally Posted by JMurphy97 View Post
    Well I'm a football player so you could say I'm one of those jocks but I'm still a nice guy. I just can't stand being the one people cry to anymore. Then when I tell them to get over it the just say bye and hang up. Then when you need something they are nowhere to be found. So maybe J will be one of them jerks and then I'll have some fun. Don't get me wrong though I can get someone but right now I don't want to. I'm 21, Irish, and we are having 2 St. Patrick's Day here. HECK YEAH!


    I'm probably COMPLETELY wrong here, and if i'm out of line let me know, but it sounds like you always try to be the tough guy and you hide your emotions. Maybe you get sick of having people cry on you because you want to cry on someone else but can't.

    Just a thought. I really don't mean to offend you and if I did let me know and i'll apologize.

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    Based on what you've written, I diagnose you as being 19. The cure is to just be who you are and you'll eventually turn 20 something and not worry so much. I can't look at someone I'm talking with and have any idea what they're thinking - whether they want me there or wish I'd get lost. Dating can be kind of like playing darts blindfolded and you'll be unable to see idle chatter is just idle chatter. Like any other handicap, you need to adjust to it, but it's less of a hurdle than what lots of people face and it becomes less significant as you get older.
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