My son has Asbergers syndrome. It has been an extremely hard for him to relate to people because of a lack of understanding of abstract thought. He has an IQ of 160, and like Einstein, is very socially awkward, but he is nice to a fault. I have observed him being ridiculed by guys, and he always says to me when I question him, "It's not my fault the man is out of Harmony with nature, and out of balance with himself." He carries on because he knows it is the right thing to do. His view is that there are enough jerks in the world, so why add one more. If a person cannot be civil, he walks away like they don't exist. I LIKE his attitude. Just because he does not act like the rest of them is no reason to tease and ridicule him, but he takes it in stride with his attitude.
One guy thought him weird and tried to pick a fight with him. LOL!!! He trapped the man with an aikido lock. The guy COULD NOT get out of the lock, and the pain inflicted made him scream like a baby. All the while my son told him how rude and mean he was, and if he didn't stop, he would REALLY have to hurt him. I laughed until I cried. I guess teaching my son the martial art of Aikido was not a bad thing! He finally planted the guy on the ground and advised him not to get up or get more of the same. I remember him saying before he walked away, "If I weren't so nice, I could have easily dislocated any bones of my choice. I suggest you find someone else to start problems with, BUT, they may not be as nice as I am." What a character! He is nice because he thinks, like I do, that that IS the way to treat people. Even if they are jerks. And the world is FULL of those!! And the shocked looks on folks' faces when he, without asking helps someone who needs it, or lets another driver in because no one else will. I am PROUD of him and who he is, and I hope that you, Finch, will not let the as-holes of this world drive you to be an angry mean person. I happen to like you just the way you are. As do the rest of us. Shed their stupidity like taking off your coat, and remain the better man! My son incidentally, is 26, and very functional. DON'T LET THEM BEAT YOU , FINCH!!!!!! Stay good to the end!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!