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Thread: Im fed up! Being nice is overrated!

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    Im fed up! Being nice is overrated!

    Angry ranting!

    I am. Well, some of you may have noticed I stopped being nice sort of awhile ago. Well, im just fed up now. All of my life I have tried to be nice. I enjoyed making people happy. Enjoyed being around people. I wanted to go out of my way to help because it was the right thing to do. Say hi. Open doors for people. Things no going well? Let me try to cheer you up. I had advice.

    And I hated being inflammatory. Anything that can be said can be said in a civil way. No need to get other people angry. W can just talk this out, blah blah. Ok sometimes I didnít feel like being all that nice, but tried my best anyways because bad moods affect other peopleís days too. Donít want to let your bad day ruin theirs. Its hard, but I tried to make an effort.
    Right?

    And know where it gets me? NOWHERE thatís what. Itís a strain to be nice when everyone else think they can just walk right over you, take advantage of your kindness. Over and over again! People who who have only been nice to talk @$%# behind your back. People you think are friend backstabbing you and ditching you cause there too polite to say go away and get fed up. Always making an effort to go see people, to get out there, to be inclusive nly to realize no one cares enough to do it in return. Always making friendly visits to others, having what you think is a good time only to figure out no one ever thinks enough of you to visit you. Hey we are headed blablabla, want to join us? As IF. No one ever says that. No one even tries to make an effort in return, to return favors! Or to try in engage you in a actual conversation. Guess whoís the one always initiating them. With my condition, I cant tell tones of voice of facial expressions, and it only make me try that much harder to make up for my problems.

    All that effort, and what is the return? Unanswered phone calls, hearing about things said behind your back- when you try to make an effort not to say anything agains others behind their back and they go and do it to you.

    Being nice is its own reward! Not for me! Hahah

    Well NO MORE! I cant take the heartache and the strain anymore. Since being nice gets me nothing, then I have nothing to loose now that I have turned bitter. You have to have friends to lose them! Hah. Its been a kind of gradual slide, as those of you I have bit lately have noticed (Ill bet!) but I have just cracked and it takes all my effort now just to sustain emotional stability at a level that is not always condescending and inflammatory.

    And guess what? I just donít care anymore.
    that makes no logic

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    Find other people with your condition.

    No friends is a very lonely thing. Once I couldn't supply my "friends" with pills, I lost half of them. They weren't REAL friends but they were there.

    You need people

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    People? For 7 years thats what i have tried to do, reach the low goal of SOMEONE enjoying my company enough to seek it out. I cant do that anymore. Im... tired
    that makes no logic

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    ummm... and what are we? lol. If we didn't enjoy your conversation we wouldn't talk to you

    Internet friends are still friends I think.

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    You HAVE to stick with being nice! You will be a better person for it and you will live a more meaningful life. Alotta successful people step on others to get to where they are and constantly in competition with their colleages (not friends). I work in NYC, I deal with sh*t every day, but I'll still hold the door for someone. And that someone might hold the door for someone else, or at least be more likely to than if you let the door close in their face. And for every time someone lets a door close in your face, there probly were 5 people that held it open for you. People always remember the negative things cause it bothers them, but forget about the good things cause they take it for granted.
    I hope all this makes sense ad I hope you can let what bothers you roll off your shoulders like rain, I know it's tough but it does become rewarding after awhile and you live a more peaceful and meaningful life that way. Or at least that's my thoughts & feelings on the matter....

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    Dude I agree with you 1,000,000 percent. People suck. Well not the people here. People here are cool but real life they suck. I have and want no friends. I have my plants (that make me crazy) and animals ( that sometimes make me crazy). That's all I need. Oh yea and football. I go crazy watching the Panthers lose too sometimes. They have so much talent but won't win. Then madden makes me crazy too sometimes. Loonybin here I come where I want my own room cuz I don't like people.

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    To be honest I can't comprehend how someone can't read facial expressions and tones of voice. I guess it's like trying to imagine being blind or deaf, I can't do it.


    I just did a quick search to try to help you out and I found this place.
    http://www.wrongplanet.net/

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    Question!: does this mean we don't hafta be nice anymore? haha...

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