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Quote (unknownclown @ Aug. 07 2003,02:04)</td></tr><tr><td id="QUOTE">life is too short for games and Im getting too old to jump thru hoops
My goal is to surround myself with peace, harmony and happiness and Ive pretty much have that now and Id like to keep it that way. If someone comes and stirs up the pot they need to keep moving cause thats not what Im looking for.[/QUOTE]<span id='postcolor'>
I just wanted to say that I like the way you put that. I seek something similar.
My view has always been to seek perfection in life, and not accept anything less. It's either all or nothing, and I'll risk everything to have everything. When I look at my life now, at my friends and my soon-to-be wife, I'm glad I took that view. I can't live in constant fear of how my innocent actions may twinge someone's insecurity, and I'm glad I didn't shirk my close friend because it might be a bit difficult in the beginning. I can't imagine sacrificing a lifetime of friendship, to save a few months of emotional trouble.
Of course, I still believe that everyone must make their own choice. Some people don't believe in putting the effort forth to find that perfection, or simply don't believe it's possible. In their situation, I think avoiding the ex would be better. I didn't want to original poster to go and lose a wonderful chance at a close friend just because "it's taboo" though. Something being "taboo" is just a social rule imposed by others for no reason but to help their insecurities. Make sure you make your own decisions in life, you'll be much happier that way.