Sounds to me like there is no trust in your house hold. My parents made me do a lot of things when I was a kid that I didn't like, and I failed to do many of them behind their back. When I asked why, I got the "because I said so" answer more often than not. At one point, I questioned my father and he told me "I have your best interests at heart, I do things to make you a better person, I would never intentionally hurt you, so just trust that there is a lesson in it somewhere and do what I say." best friggin answer I ever got, and you know what? I never asked again, I did what my dad said, from only getting AN HOUR of TV a week to him sitting me down and making me build an 8086 computer with him, learning how to replace an alternator, going to bed when I am told... don't regreat a bit of it.
See, the way I see it, is maybe the 10PM bed time wasn't about you at all, maybe your mom and dad wanted a little time to themselves, time they didn't want to have to explain to you. Perhaps THEY needed you to go to bed and cut them some slack and you didn't, and rather than push it, they let it go. Your parents are the example for authority in your life, and someday, your going to get into the world and be wholly unprepared. You don't get to ask your boss "Why do I have to do a TPS report" all the time, you ask your seargent why you have to take a hill, he'll pop you upside the head. Doign things you don't want to do or because you think they are stupid, builds discipline. But I don't expect you to understand it, and we really are only getting one side of the story so I guess it's pointless to try and make a point.
I hope FlytrapGurl takes advantage of this time to raise her grades and gets back on soon.
As to those questions: The priniciple of my school that was in charge of my class was a drunkard and did many unethical things. She was found out about two years after I graduated and fired. there was talk of ciminal and civil action being taken against her, but I don't know if anything ever came of that. So that is why my parents (or me for that matter) didn't know.
Also, I would say No, I don't have Adult ADD, but I think My wife, several of my friends, and Phil and a few other mods would say yes I do.